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Whenever we post a story about the single life, without fail the comment section offers smart takes on the ups and downs of putting yourself out there, falling in love and breaking up. Here are some of our favorites. I told him I wanted other people to see me as someone who is present and lives in the moment. He then asked if I was living in the moment right then with him. It was a kind of sexy, intimate exchange. Afterward, at dinner, there was plenty to talk about.

Solid they are: these legs that can handle Cheers to solid women who are loved by solid men. He and my grandmother were married for nearly 74 years. I spent time with her on the day of the funeral, just holding her hand and listening to what she had to say. I used to down a shot of vodka before going on a first date because I used to be SO nervous.

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Happily married since now though. I have learnt the hard way that you must be honest when starting online or aps based dating. As a hispanic man we do tend to have very big egos. This has no helped my dating efforts. Since Ive been me things have improved greatly. I know the risks associated with it, but there are risks no matter how you meet someone. On the other hand, I am inclined to agree that dating someone in person should stay that way. This is a little off topic, but if we can have self-driving cars then we can have online dating.

I just wish people were a bit more open-minded about these things. I kind of lost faith in men for a while, but realised just as there are good single women out there, there are good single men, I just had a few bad ones. I was 33 when we met. Met a few, just once and never really clicked. But when I met M, I took the initiative to ask him to meet in person. I can understand why women usually wait for the guy to take the lead, but it just felt right.

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Dating him has been such an amazing ride. Little by little we both have opened up to each other: the good, the bad, the ugly, the smelly, the annoying, the needy, etc etc etc And it gets better, each time. Before meeting him, I had finally reached that moment in life when I was finally happy with myself, when you surrender yourself to the good in life and welcome anything that comes in your way. Only then, he came into my life.

Big inspiration right there! I have been reading these comments for days now. It feels both liberating and extremely painful, all at the same time. I married young and have finally realized I believe I married the wrong person after years of feeling like there was something wrong with me, because I wanted more than just watching TV together and having sex.

I want an actual companion with whom I share interests and know on a deeply personal level. Mostly because we have a young daughter, and that weighs on me heavily. When I commented on this post last week, I had been preparing myself for what it might feel like to dive back into online dating. All of this while I was still dating someone. I went to my therapy session midweek feeling lost and miserable and unsure of WHY.

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Oh Rue, hugs to you too! I never really knew what it meant to honor myself and my feelings until I started therapy this year. I was brought up to only really worry about what another person was feeling, not myself. Better late than never, right? So glad you have lightened your load a little. Best wishes to you! This post gives me hope.


Does anyone have any advice? I am in the same boat! It is not the case with us small-town girls. I live in a big town but everyone is so closed off in l.

Sep 06,   Online dating services are now the second most popular way to meet a partner. The popularity of online dating is being driven by several things, but a major factor is time. Online dating . Feb 10,   The Virtual Dating Assistants (ViDA) gives a great example of the right way to give praise: "Wow those fur. How long have you two been together? Is he jealous of newcomers?" In a funny first message, the online dater shows interest in Michaela's pictures, pays a compliment to her dog, asks a solid question, and makes a flirtatious suggestion. Dec 20,   2. Comment on their profile. Commenting on someone's online dating profile shows that you actually read it and that you're a good listener. When you meet a new person online, it can be tempting to compliment their looks. And while physical compliments are nice, they can Author: Elizabeth Entenman.

Then put it out there. That and the fact that you are trapped! It all makes sense now! I have actually been meaning to comment on another post you made awhile back about how you know your partner is the one but I guess I will make my comment here instead :. I was with my ex for close to a decade and neither of us really ever wanted to marry the other and he definitely got on my nerves a lot. Nice guy, but I honestly had just settled. Well, due to the uncertainty I actually ended up breaking up with him this summer and I started dating my current boyfriend shortly thereafter.

Maybe it sounds crazy to get into another relationship so fast, but with him everything is different. We clicked instantly and we fell in love so fast. He truly listens to me and we have so much fun even going to the grocery store together. You deserve to be in a relationship where each person feels truly loved for who they are.

I rarely comment and have a hard time getting my emotions out without feeling silly, but thank you for this blog. I read every post. I follow all these great female Instagram artistic and writer accounts including Mari Andrew and your former editor Caroline that talk about love and heartbreak and would love to know if there are male versions.

I would love to read mens perspectives on here aswell : Could you do it Cup of Jo-Team? Second this. The Dear Sugar podcast is a start. Anyone have other recommendations? Oh man! This post and these comments are making my month.

I go back and forth with how I feel about it - strong and confident one day, sad and lonely the next. I did meet someone and we spent 5 blissful days sharing deep, soulful conversation that blew my mind. I had always wanted to experience a deep, passionate and spiritually connected love and I did! Granted it was only 5 days but, it was still beautiful. Another commentor posted a Nariyya Waheed god i love her! I truly believe the 5 day guy was a soul mate- he taught me so much about myself, I felt seen and accepted and we had magic.

Do I want a longer commitment?! Hell yes! I want babies and a husband BUT, I think appreciating the magic moments among the long journey to finding the right partner, make dating that much more enjoyable.

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And when I experience something I really like, I offer a prayer of gratitude to the universe and then say, I would like more please! I am right here with you, Amanda! I am almost 30 and have been single for four years.

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I date often and have had a series of shorter relationships that have ended usually by me not because there was anything wrong with the men - the majority of them were kind and wonderful - but because I enjoy my independence and do not want to settle.

While it is less and less common for women our age to be single, I think it is underrated. In a way, to even be able to be a single and self-sufficient woman is a privilege that was denied to many women before us, and many in other parts of the world today.

I have learned so much about myself over the past four years because I no longer spend all my time worrying about someone else. And, on the lonelier nights, I remember one of my favourite adages: Better to be home alone than home wishing you were alone.

I am with you in spirit! Not single but have been for many years in my 20s. I love and live for those magic moments. Thanks for your thoughtful post and thrilling story.

I went on 4 dates with my now husband without him making any attempt to kiss me. For me, they were clearly dates as we had met in a bar and arranged to meet again, for dinner, cinema, coffeeetc.

After hashing over all the possible reasons with my friends, I finally had to know if I had misread the situation and I kissed HIM. He drove me home on the second date. It was cold, snowing, perfect atmosphere for a first kissthen we got to my place and he LEAPT out of the car to hug me goodnight.

I was certain that was the end of it and lamented to my roommates that he must not be that into me. I kissed him at the end of the third date and now we live together :. That was 12 years ago the day before Thanksgiving! While I definitely think relationships can be hard, most days he makes me elated. Then other days, I need space. But to say everything is perfection every day is just not realistic. Thanks Amy! I experienced something very similar and my name is also Eva-hi! And then I look at my partner.

He is my favorite human person. He is still my favorite part of every day. He makes me better and I make him better. And he makes me laugh every single day. I am a terrifyingly pragmatic realist.

Jessie, I feel we are the same person. He and I are equally pragmatic and have always joked that we can see ourselves together for 20 years because forever seemed too bold. When we first got together I went to Europe alone for 2 months and we spoke every day. He got to the airport a whole day early my fault and we were beyond excited to see each other again. I still feel the same way every day when we get home from work. Just truly over the moon to hang out.

Your reply made my heart sing and your relationship sounds so sweet and beautiful. I hope you continue to find pragmatic happiness : To 13 more years for both of us and maybe 13 after that. But ultimately, this is where I am, so I need to embrace it. Alyssa, it sounds like we are basically the same person. I am also 27, almost 28, and have also had lots of short term relationships because I was worried about being alone!

Sending love. A few weeks ago, my ex broke up with me for the second time in 4 years. Long strolls through Central Park. That really does sound so tough, and particularly at this time of year. It sounds like you guys were in different places, and I think there are few things harder than that. Alice, your response totally made me smile : I appreciate the encouraging and kind words!

Happy Holidays and sending you warm wishes from NYC! Happy holidays, sending warm wishes right back from London! Some weeks I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life.

Nov 07,   Dating can be exhilarating, exhausting, everything in between - and something we've all got a lot to say about. Whenever we post a story about the single life, without fail the comment section offers smart takes on the ups and downs of putting yourself out there, falling in love and breaking up. Aug 21,   The HER dating app is free to download, and it offers a lot of free networking and chatting tools to help womxn break the ice. You can comment on someone's photo or RSVP to a local queer event to get noticed on the app. Dec 15,   Mentioning something yummy-sounding works just as well on dating apps. In fact, dating app Hinge discovered girls are 40more likely to reply to messages about food. Here's a short, delicious sounding message that's perfect for a dating app: First Message Strategy #4: Get Personal. It's basic human nature to love talking about yourself.

He is my first and only relationship. Thank you. I love my husband but I am under no illusion that he is the only person in the world for me. A healthy relationship is about finding someone with whom you are compatible and making a commitment to continue loving that person. Bea, I love this advice! When I was younger I was so caught up in trying to appear and be relaxed and carefree about everything.

Once I embraced the fact that I am not a relaxed or carefree person, I felt so much more free! Sometimes this is not ideal but you know what, we all have qualities that are sometimes not ideal. Also, I learned when you stop spending so much time trying not to cry and just take 5 minutes to let it out, you can really get a lot done.

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When I read this, it sounded like bull- and then I met a guy, and he loved me so assuredly and showed me how amazing I was, and I was able to do the same for him, and suddenly I realized what I had been missing all along. Love this! So happy for you. I share the same with my husband.

It was so strange to feel so secure. Then I realized, duh, he really does love me! Life just opens up.

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After calling it quits with my fiance, I was so worn down to the bone. I knew it had been a toxic relationship - he had some past traumatic experiences that needed to be faced and it conflicted with our relationship. Even though I thought at the time I wanted to be with him, I knew that going back and forth so much was unhealthy and more than anything, I knew he needed to be by himself to face these issues head-on.

His insecurities made him be brutally honest in good and bad ways with me and more often than not, overly critical of me in my appearance and in other ways as well.

I felt myself becoming a shell of the person I was because I thought I needed to be the person HE needed. Fast forward and I am with a man that I never would have pictured being with. And although we see each other several time per week, I make sure I carve out a healthy chunk of time for myself now. Out date nights consist of grabbing some grub hole in the wall places are our favoritehaving nostalgic gaming nights, cooking dinner together, and movies!

Thanks for all of this. Currently seeing someone, but feeling really in the dark about whether it will last. A few months ago, I felt very vulnerable about the idea of dating again if my current relationship ends.

It is so hard to be vulnerable and open the way dating and early-days relationships require. A few years ago, I was recently back on the market after a tough breakup, one that really shattered my confidence and feeling of self-worth. Before any new first date, I would call my girlfriend Ellen to talk through my jitters, workshop my outfit, and generally just leverage her kickass attitude to psych myself up.

Hesitant about the dating game but hopeful. The comments here I wonderful! I am reading these comments, listening to Taylor Swift, and all I can say is that Begin Again is the best soundtrack to this post:. Thank you so much for all these bits of advice truly helpful.

But being by myself has always been my comfort zone. But among the many things that I like about him, I have to say the way he handles the situation going back and forth to his hometown every other weekend, maintaining a good relationship with his ex who broke up with him when their child was a mere 3 months old, raising a daughter! Maybe sometimes life throws you a curveball and you just have to catch it.

Sorry for the ramble :. Dear S, I can say with great certainty that you found yourself a really nice guy!! The way a guy treats his ex partner and the child they have is a certain sign of whether he is a good person overall - and he definitely seems like he is!

I keep refreshing this post to see if more comments have been posted. It feels like a lifeline for this romantically adrift 24 year-old. What a warm, funny, and wise community of women. Thank you thank you thank you! She literally goes through all the criticism of people get who are looking for partnership and answers each one with mindful, and authentic things you can say to yourself when feeling self critical and to people in your community when they give advice or become critical.

Sending that compassion to each person commenting about longing here. Thanks to your comment I just checked this out today! May the peace and humor and freedom from Sara bless you too. She is smart, compassionate, funny, deeply insightful, kind like our community here :.

My grandmother is 95 years old and has been married for 67 years. When I was in college I came home from a break once and divulged excitedly about a guy I had just started dating, and how it was so much fun all the time. Her expression was so wise and serious. My partner of 11 years had a psychotic break this summer, ended up in a mental hospital, and broke up with me. We had been waiting to have a baby until we were more financially stable. I feel so much pressure to find someone and beat my biological clock.

Be grateful for that. I went on my first 1st date in 11 years a couple weeks ago via a dating app and it was so confusing. I thought it went really well. We had 4 hours of non-awkward conversation, lots in common, and he even kissed me goodnight. My single girlfriends tell me this is the new norm. Most people my age are married or in a relationship already, and I bet single guys assume the same about me. Sending lots of love to you! Oh Joannie, hugs to you!

Oh, Joannie, my heart goes out to you. What a traumatic way for that relationship to end. But there is a difference between loving and choosing someone, and loving someone without the act of choosing them, every day. Dating apps can be exhausting, but not everyone on there is looking at dating as a game or as if people are disposable. Try putting what you want in your profile - that way, those guys can weed themselves out for you. Ahh, my comment was featured! I love it. Driving together, talking without interruptions, listening to actual music.

Haha, this is amazing. I smiled when I read that comment because my partner and I go on long walks all the time. Now I am wondering if kid car naps are our future. Thanks for this! Joanna - an idea for you! How they met, what drew them into each other, what made them say yes. When an argument gets started, my partner and I have started to take a deep breath and apologize right away, both of us, no matter what.

It gets the pride out of the way and sets the tone for working things out more gently.

Jul 10,   I've said if Ivanka weren't my daughter, perhaps I'd be dating her." While USA Today noted that Trump's comment drew laughs from the crowd, Trump's representative nonetheless felt the. Sep 30,   Dating. All Dating Advice Dating Experiences Best Online That also means they've got thousands upon thousands of comments from horned . Tagged, Hi5, Myspace, MyYearbook. Image too small for Tagged and Hi5.

This is simply not the case. Thank you! I wish I had read the quote about feeling confused a long time ago too, but better late than never! As always, these COJ comments in the post and below! I would like to know if people think chemistry can grow over time. He is! I think the spark thing is SOOO over-rated. I had incredible spark with a guyand I did three rounds with him over the course of 10 years that always ended in heartbreak and fury.

Then the guy who turned into the love of my life came along. Every single day he impressed me with a quiet confidence until I was deeply in love. Do not drop this one yet! Give it time! Nothing wrong with a slow simmer.

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Married to my best friend who was firmly friend zoned but through his persistence he charmed me and I surrendered.

Just be honest and let it play out. My husband and I started out this way. But I expressed how I felt and we continued to foster our relationship. So yes, it can.

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Without knowing much more, my gut reaction is this: be honest about it, but definitely give it a try! Yes, totally the spark can grow over time. I was great friends with a guy for four years and I knew he really loved me, but I had no physical attraction to him. So I went for it. First couple of kisses were pretty awkward after so much friend time, but maybe third date after that it was four alarm fire and we were taking about getting married.

Yes; chemistry can absolutely grow over time! Fast forward 7 years and two children later. Get to know each other a little more, there might be something there. Cheers Lucy. I would say definitely! And some of the worst relationships were those initial hot flames.

Good luck! Oh yes, chemistry can grow over time. I have learned that, sometimes, chemistry grows out of immediate sparks. And I have learned that, sometimes, the sparks come after I learn how safe I am with someone. But if this is a great guy who shares a lot in common with you, like you shared, you can opt to relax into it. You can give yourself the freedom to see how things unfold over time.

I think it depends on what type of person you are. I was in a relationship once were I felt the spark almost right away, but the guy did not.

One year in the relationship when we got to know each other a whole lot better he felt very different about that and 8 years later we are still happily together. So long story short, I think that depending on what type of person you chemistry can definetely grow over time :. That is no excuses to settle however! I absolutely do.

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I think in the beginning attraction comes from feeling excited, inspired, and intrigued by the other person which can grow out of laughing, connecting, sharing something the other person is passionate about. To sustain that chemistry I have to feel mutual respect- harder to suss out when you first meet someone. I think it can, I usually give people two dates before I nix it.

My current boyfriend of 3 years! Sometimes people are better in other environments than others ie, a quiet dinner vs. In fact, we knew each other two years before we dated. But once we occasionally started talking and joking around with each other, sparks began to fly slowly but surely. Whenever we saw each other, the rest of the people would just disappear seemingly. Then one day, I found myself noticing what nice, strong forearms he has!

After that, I ended up dating a guy from my graduate program who I never ever ever would have thought I would date. We never had a spark, per se, but I always felt so comfortable in my own skin with him and over time I fell completely in love with how caring and curious and fun he was.

I think in the end learned I prefer a smolder than a spark. After a string of terrible relationships, I randomly went on a date with my current partner and slowly but surely we fell in love.

He liked me for years before he asked me out, which I think is adorable : We are happily together now. I believe his kindness and ability to make me laugh are the strong points in our relationship and what make our love so special. Dating can be so rough. After my ex boyfriend and I broke up in April I did heaps of work on myself to make sure I could go into my next relationship being open, vibrant, fun, vulnerable, and, most of all, completely myself.

I met a great guy, and things were going well for a while, but he slowly started pulling away and then he broke up with my a few weeks ago, 6 months to the day after I was last broken up with. But you are right- you did nothing wrong. Being yourself is never wrong x. Sometimes you just have bad lucht and that sucks but is not your fault :.

There: you have it. When you loves you I am sure you will find the right person. That does not mean that you will be married with kids by the age of That is not how love works or should work for everyone. It sounds like he was searching for an excuse to give. For a serious relationship, neither of those expectations is unrealistic in the slightest. My dad told me to beware of men who enjoyed the chase. My mum told me not to be swayed by ideas of what to expect; a marriage, kids, one long term love, and to trust my instinct in matters of love.

I also partook in chase, and it was fun! But then not led to so much more! Right now, all of my close friends are in relationships, resulting in me spending a lot of time by myself. I love a good night alone with a movie and wine, but when it becomes every night of the week, it starts to feel heartbreaking. I am grateful for my life, it really is good! But at the end of the day, I would do anything to have someone to make dinner with and talk about our days.

In the past few years I have met several guys who I knew were at least somewhat interested, but nothing ever comes of it. Not even a date! And certainly not a commitment of any kind. I feel this too, Alex. I was in the exact same spot as you roughly 3 years ago and it really helped me figure out if I wanted a relationship or if I wanted to pursue my career, etc.

It helped me be me and figure out what I wanted the most next! Alex, thank you so much for sharing. It resonated with me very much! Perhaps you feel the same as I do about your friends, that they are glorious and a joy to be with even their partners are fun!

Often, though not always, the culprit behind this insecurity is the notion that we find validation through finding a partner. I admit this is easier said than done, but I actively remind myself that I have to be just as generous in the support and love I give myself as I try to give to others.

Hi and same! And what a disservice it would be to myself if I actually dated any of those guys! Also, start socializing without the pressure of meeting someone special.

Sharing a deep conversation or deep belly laughs with friends gives you that same high you get when you meet a hot guy who smiles at you with much less risk of disappointment. Take penis off the table- meet new guys without thinking of them as prospects. It has totally changed my outlook and freed me up to be myself more completely. This story was super eye-opening! All of this. I try not to lament on what feels like an extended period of bad luck and bad timing, but it is incredibly disheartening when you see so much love around happening for others.

When I was in this position, I took the initiative and asked out men I was attracted to. Just simple dates, to see if we could hang out together comfortably. All were flattered and said yes. Try that? Also, tell your friends to invite you to every party, dress beautifully, and GO! Oh Alex, I am sorry. I know that pain. When I was single and feeling down, I would always try to remind myself that I could possibly meet someone new at any given time!

I would channel my frustration into something positive, kind of like a game. The excitement of never knowing what could happen next! They sat next to one another and the rest is history. My younger sister was once asked out on a date at the grocery store! She was young, 23! I once fell madly in love with a new next-door neighbor of mine and had a long-term relationship with him.

I know it sometimes feels so black and white, like the only options are either A. I met my now-boyfriend at work, during his interview with my old office. You never know who could be interviewing at your office tomorrow! I have a set of married friends who met on the dance floor of a bar. And on and on. Thinking of you during this season of loneliness and sending positive vibes your way! I am 27 and the constant single girl of my friends too.

I try to ignore the loneliness but at times I hate it so so much. I will find that somebody. We all will. I just know it!

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I rushed. I wanted the ring and the dress and the husband. Take the pressure off. Do fun stuff. Easier said than done I want everything now! On a dating app like Tinder or Bumble, you can take a quick glance at her photos and bio to see if any common interests jump out. For instance if you find you both love dogs, this would be a good first message for online dating:. Read this article. Certain words are attention-grabbing because they sound delicious.

Notice how it starts off with a light compliment. Complimenting her will often give you points, but only if you focus on intangible qualities like intelligence or her accomplishments. Paying her a more meaningful compliment is a breath of fresh air for her. Mentioning something yummy-sounding works just as well on dating apps.

In fact, it literally stimulates your brain and makes you feel good.

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And the better she feels about talking to you, the more likely she is to share her number. The example above is more suited for an online dating site where longer messages are the norm, but you can get her talking about herself on a dating app with a short message like this:.

Those three elements are crucial if you want to get a response to your online dating opener. Weekday evenings are generally best - many women unwind from a long day at work by firing up a dating app while catching up on Netflix.

According to Nielsenactivity on both OkCupid and Tinder peaks at 9 pm, and usage starts to rapidly decline after 10 pm.

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On Bumble, the real action starts a little earlier, with activity peaking at 6 pm. And if you happen to find yourself stuck inside due to inclement weather like a blizzard, hurricane or rainstorm, put these first message examples to good use.

NBC News did a little investigating, and found that bad weather goes hand in hand with increased activity on dating sites and apps. In many cases, the increase was pretty dramatic. Try a light-hearted follow up message like this one:. The more messages you send, the more desperate you look.

Online daters are too smart to fall for them. Blah blah blah. That's crazy - you don't have that kind of time, especially when it's a numbers game. Not only do copy and paste messages workbut we get incredible results for our clients with them. Other industry experts recognize the wisdom of the copy and paste method as well. And even if a woman calls you out on sending a template message, so what? And many intelligent daters recognize the wisdom of using them, like this woman who weighed in on a Quora forum discussion:.

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First Message Strategy 1: Go For Laughs Funny online dating messages get responses because women naturally find guys with a sense of humor attractive. They set you apart from the crowd. They ask her a question. You need to make it as easy as possible for her to respond, and controlling the conversation is a simple way to do it.

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