Go to Page Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. Originally Posted by professorsenator. Not so sure about that, ChessieMom.
I'm a 40 yrs old dude. I couldn't possibly imagine being with a 20 yr old female, other then the obvious reasons. I just don't think that they would have the life experience to hold my attention. I need to be able to talk to someone and have them understand things other than the latest boy bands. Also it really wouldn't be fair to her in a LTR situation because she would be "wasting" her best yrs with some "old" dude.
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Whyte Byrd. Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley. I looaathe ageism-the most prominent kind, making fun of older women and more specifically, those who end up with younger men, so I can't bash older men with younger women. I think that's between the individuals and no one else, unless of course, it involves someone under age. How-e-verI think these things don't usually-don't usually -work out. Often, the younger female is looking for money and if the man is aware of that from the start and willing to purchase a wife, fine, that too is between them.
But more often, the woman ends up changing her mind once he can't keep up with her anymore, which, for some men, would be in their 50s or 60s.
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She starts feeling she's getting older around ish and wants to feel more attractive-thanks to the overwhelming effects of ageism in this country of which women are among the worst, the hardest on each other. Jealousy, it appears and surprisingly, younger women toward older. Yeah, you'd think-if you just looked at it from a superficial point of view-it would be the other way around but it's not so. This is obviously a deep subject for me.
Short answer-I couldn't care less. Originally Posted by max's mama. Originally Posted by ChessieMom. The guy is 42 now Get back to me then and let me know how it's going.
Seriously, it's a problem that is more prevalent with increased age. And it has more to do with other health issues than anything else.
In other words, if you work to keep yourself in shape and healthy, your chances are very good that you won't experience it. I sincerely hope you don't, for your wife's or SO's sake. This is from the Mayo Clinic: "Erectile dysfunction is common, and prevalence increases with age.
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It affects 5 to 10 percent of men at age By age 70, from 40 to 60 percent of men have the condition. Originally Posted by Nutz Also, her looks will have dropped quite a bit and male attention will be starting to wane at that age.
Point being everyone gets old, that's life. Also, a 52 year old with a 30 year old is pretty unremarkable. Same as a 62 year old with a 42 year old, which now that I think about it is pretty close to my dad and his new wife.
I'm 30 dating mostly 20 and 21 year olds. Don't think age is an issue. Of the woman fits the bill she will be the one. I feel for me dating younger keeps me younger. The way tthe younger women think and are is liberating than women my age. Also older they r the more damaged and jaded. Surprisingly people my age have had less sexual partners and r frankly boring in bed.
The younger ones are more experienced and waaaay more open to new things. I'm a 21 year old female and I've been dating a 33 year old man and living togather for about 1. And he doesn't have kids neither of us and just recently we been a part 3 weeks in different states and he out of know where says it feels like the relationship change, meanly because where not face to face and he need time to decide with he wants to still be with me.
What is that about?
Keep in mind I am his first real and longest time relationship he done had and the only women he ever live with on his own. He did live with mom until he was 32 a believe and is real close to his mom.
And his mom loves me and his whole family.
All I can suggest is to stay fit and take care of your body. When she's at her sexual peak you'll be almost sixty. It's perfectly possible for an older man to be sexually active, but taking care of yourself can only help matters.
My husband is an older man. I always found him very sexy! From experience, after some time, the younger person will have fluctuating feelings about being with an older person. At 25, they are still in some way maturing and gaining life experience.
I'm a 21 year old female and I've been dating a 33 year old man and living togather for about years. And he doesn't have kids neither of us and just recently we been a part 3 weeks in different states and he out of know where says it feels like the relationship change, meanly because where not face to face and he need time to decide with. May 07, Also, a 52 year old with a 30 year old is pretty unremarkable. Same as a 62 year old with a 42 year old, which now that I think about it is pretty close to .
My rule of thumb is never date anyone younger than 30 years old. Don't be surprise if she at some point have reservations. It happens. Especially if there is a big generation gap, things can be difficult in finding common ground.
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I dont find anything wrong with dating someone older, at 30 I had a relationship with a man who was 49, we had a mature emotional connection he was understanding, sincere and I liked it. I felt cared for, respected, helped, listened too, given mature advise, secure, safe and many other things. Though, I was not attracted to him on a physical level there were many other advantages we both had and gained in the relationship.
He used to say he enjoys my company and he admires my outlook towards life as both of us were very different. Postdoc, I do too and I am also able to sustain friendships with older people than with people my age. I got married to someone 13 years elder to me, In the sense i sought something in him, i couldn't find it anywhere, even there after when it broke off because of so many issues, i tend to fall for someone elder again, and again.
I wouldn't precisely use the word "falling", rather i would say i felt emotionally bonded, easily understood by them.
Now i am with someone younger. I really don't know what is missing. PostDoc, if it happened often then you were actually consciously choosing to be with older men. When you date someone older and then you go back to date someone young like your age ofcourse you will have to feel a huge difference, maturity, experience and also emotional bonding.
I would suggest that you work with what you feel comfortable with, and also consider your needs, its not possible to get the best of both worlds young and old. Per my experience, there are advantages of being with either of them and this depends on how you feel. Some older men are more affectionate, understanding and you feel secure with them and its not always about their 'ego'. Young men, well I can say its a whole different world, I remember when I was with one man who was 32years and we had a fight over listening to reggae music in his car.
He had played loud music for hours and I remember telling him I would not mind some quiet time. It resulted in a fight and him calling his sister to report me he said 'I cannot listen to music in my own car' and explained to his sister the current situation and how I am stopping him from enjoying reggae music.
In your place I would take it as an Ego-compliment that a 13 years younger lady finds me attractive and want to date me! OP, please be confident and see the bright side of it:) Age difference is only a (moral) problem in Western society. In Lati. In other words, while the rule states that year-old women can feel comfortable dating year-old men, this does not reflect the social preferences and standards of women. Women in their 40s. Dec 15, Women are trending higher than the rule would suggest as well: for most middle-aged women, they prefer to keep their dating partner's age closer to years away from their own age. While the rule says that a year-old woman could date a year-old, most year-old women don't feel comfortable doing that, according to mcauctionservicellc.com: Lachlan Brown.
Many of us get into relationships with people who subconsciously remind us of our parents and our desire is to put right in our partners, what was wrong with our parents. Johnny Nicks's recent blog posts: Empathy or Projection?
My Own Issues. I think they never reminded me of my parents.
PostDOC, same thing, the man was not anything closer to my father or even reminded me of him, he was warm, available, talkative too, listened and would sometimes pull abit of humour, my father was and is alittle cold and distant, unavailable, acts busy, he will not pay much attention etc.
Sarah, if you ask me, i haven't been able to find a man who was as affectionate as my dad was to me. Because i remember i lost him at 11, and i have a distant memory you can say, where i was all the times in his arms. Its good if someone who is your spouse as good as your parents, but i really don't have an expectation deep within.
Although i seek affection in a similar manner, while keeping in my mind that he is not my dad!. But yes we are build over the period of time, there are few things which keeps me deprived. It was a total fluke I met her at all. I was in a bar having a beer with a buddy and he left to go hit on the bartender at another place at 3pm in the afternoon.
This hot girl came and sat down alone when I was finishing my beer and ready to leave. I was on vacation and she wasnt working.
At first I was just thinking of it as a hot piece of action. She had a boyfriend even. But the more we got to know eachother the more we realized that we're like carbon copies of eachother, we have a running joke that we're clones.
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We can complete eachothers sentences and anticipate eachothers thoughts. I know.
Weird seeing that there's a 12 year age gap. I've never been married, I have no kids, neither has she. I had actually written off ever getting a girlfriend ever again after 17 years of back to back serious relationships, I was just going to date until I met this girl.
I was seeing 9 girls and from the moment we met we were inseperable and I dropped the ball on all of them. What has come up so far with the age gap is she is a bit concerned because she wants to be married with kids at 30 - at which time I'd be There's also probably a bit of niggling concern about what her family would think they are quite conservative although she hasn't aired it.
Also what's come up is that I have had so many former serious girlfriends and that while 3 months is a long relationship for her she has only had 2 actual boyfriends thats more like 3 years for me. When the subject of exes comes up she feels like its a one sided conversation because she doesnt have those kind of stories to tell. On the upside though, she has brought up to me that guys her age often just dont get it. They wont shut up and listen when they need to, they have to prove that they're right, they are always pushing her for the serious relationship that she isnt ready for right now shes had four guys try to marry her and one guy try to get her pregnant against her wishes.
She says she feels more comfortable with me than with any other guy she's met. I dont push on her for even the label we're currently officially just "friends" but the way its going I think it's pretty well inevitable.
New research has revealed the acceptable age for who you. I'm 41 years old lady, and have always been attracted to older guys since I was 18, my first boyfriend was 34 and I was just 18 years old and when I was. 34 years old I dated a 62 year old man and had a very good sex life, at that time that's what I needed but now at. 41 years old what I craved is companionship, affection not so much just sex. I personally know two cases of a 20+ year age difference between spouses: One was my best friend's parents, the second pair are my wife's parents. In the case of the former, my friends dad was a handsome medical doctor in his forties when he swept.
I think my relationship experiences pay off when I'm with her. I will wake her up gently and bring her coffee and already have breakfast on the make.
I will hold her hand when walking down the street and give her small neck kisses and PDA that is appropriate for the situation. Her young age pays off for me in that she is not yet jaded like many women in their 30s, she hasnt been burned badly by a lot of men yet. She sees things in a much simpler light; we slept in a tent in my backyard and watched the clouds and pointed out what we thought they looked like, I havent done anything like that in years.