Although most deaf people marry other deaf people , many have relationships with hearing people. Those relationships, which may have begun before the deaf partner lost hearing, often become preoccupied with issues such as sign language SL communication. Forum members advised each other on deaf-hearing relationships snippets follow :. He's not comfortable with it and never will be This is a common problem in "mixed marriages. It is easier for him to learn signs and impossible for you to learn to hear
I really hope you find peace in your marriage, perhaps start by praising her for being a stay at home mom, it is the most important job in the world. Bless you both.
I agree with Sarah and Krista.
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Being deaf cannot ruin a marriage, but being detached and unsympathetic can. One thing that those with hearing seem to not quite understand is; being able to speak and hear does not mean you are able to communicate. There are so many people in this society that speakbut really say nothing at all. My father was seventy when he passed away from cancer and in all those seventy years of life he did not open up to his wife, his children or anyone.
Not until the very last breath did he finally tell us that we were loved. I am younger than my siblings and much more open with how I feel. It was like years of perfectly polished armor had been shed and my brother became a child again.
Not communicating is an epidemic in this society. Being given the tools to communicate and choosing not to, choosing to build a wall around yourself instead of letting those you love in, is the true disability.
Being deaf, although it is a struggle, opens a new level of awareness that those with hearing are ignorant off. I live in a quiet world but I have no issues communicating with my boyfriend, I find ways. Speaking is not the only outlet for connection. I hug people a lot, it feels good and says so much. Yes we have our problems but as long as we have the passion and the will to work on them, we will move past it.
I wish someone would have told my father that true strength is without walls, I believe he would have been a much happier man and my family would not have been so divided. My deafness is the least of the worries. These can shake one to the core. Yes, us, the hearing and seeing people are afraid to communicate in cases when it is most needed.
There are many problems, but a kind, understanding and patient approach can remedy those to some extent. Goes for all kinds of people. Thanks for sharing your beautiful, insightful thoughts. Take care. I met a guy who is deaf, through my cousin who is an interpreter. It was on a camping trip with family and friends. They called him, uncle.
I really like the fact that he goes to church and through the camping experience, is up for adventure. There was a moment, he gestured something funny and I liked that. But he was quiet not sign majority of the timehe only communicated with my cousin, his buddy, because he my cousin was the only one that could sign. Basically, with those several days of camping, I found him to be handsome and I would like to get to know him more.
I am learning to sign through youtube videos so next time I see him at invited events that are coming soonI can communicate to him. Do you think, if he has mutual interest, would it work? You are married so this is why I ask you. You have more wisdom in the marriage department.
By the way Sarah, do you have an email? Thank you so much for your post. That guys was bumming me out. But you brought hope to the table. Sarah you speak so well for a deaf person! Fireproof is a wonderful movie. You are truly blessed with the husband you have plus I think he is too. Question, what if my deaf husband ignores my sadness or when my facial expression expresses pain?
He just wants me to listen only. To the point where he has no clue what my day to day is like. What do I do? The main reason for divorce is the Deaf person was raised hearing. And you try to use a cain but every time you picked it up people would take it from you.
After that take some ASL classes. I am a hearing male and am building a relationship online with a deaf woman who has a problem walking When we started talking she called herself handicapped and a cripple.
I told her I never wanted to hear that again because I accept and love her for who she is. We have been talking for 3 months and I go to meet her in 5 days. It just goes to show anything can work if you try hard enough. Dude, have you and your wife considered learning ASL? I think that would simplify your communication issue a good bit. Learn ASL. Find an ASL therapist. Your marriage can be saved if you want it to be but it will take a lot of work and a lot of learning.
I feel so sad while reading all posts and comments, and while reading yours their comes tears in my eyes, but thankfully these tears show my happiness, as good humans still exist like you. You really are a nice human being. She is the bestest person i ever met. May she always be happy and I pray to she will got her hearing back and I also pray that Persons like you will stay forever for advising, counselling and answering to that pessimistic persons.
Thank you again. Also, using your marriage to judge ALL deaf people saying they only bring one leg to the table, I mean really? Bitter much? In a world where most people are hearing and therefore privileged because the world is designed for them, hearing people assume everyone needs to cater to them. And yes I am hearing. Thank you for sharing. We should start a support group for the hearing spouses of the deaf and communicate by talking on Skype or FaceTimeWhat do you think?
All the best. You ARE being heard! Why did you marry someone that you had communication problems with in the first place? I feel no pity for you on that front. Can we say hypocrite? Why is that? In all those years you spent with her, if you had bothered to learn sign language right from the beginning, you would have been perfectly fluent by now.
Your generalization of deaf people as cold, soul-sucking succubi unwilling to compromise for their partners based on your experiences with the only deaf person you have ever known says far more about your character than anything else. I suspect that both your deaf wife and you seem to be as Christians. You decided to choose her to be your wife. The level of communication without using sign would leave you deserted and uninteresting. Since my wife lost her hearing communication is also very difficult.
Even though it sounds mean after awhile you get tired repeating yourself. No one calls her and she has no friends.
If we go out to dinner she has no idea what the conversation is about. If I go out with my friends she blames me for leaving her alone and tries to make me feel guilty. She drives locally only. She is a good persondresses nice, keeps the house clean and pays the bills. Were both so bored. She also broke her hip and had several surgeries and does not walk well. What you said really has me thinking. I can totally understand Ricks frustration. Sometimes the deaf card gets old though.
We hearing people have feelings too and sacrifice a lot to be there for our hard of hearing partner. I get fed up with it too! I can only imagine how information staved they must be. Imagine Everytime Simone said something and you missed it and do you allowed them to repeat it and they said never mind.
Take that, but with every conversation not in eye sight. I disagree with your statement. Selfish she may have been in personality no different to a hearing person. But deafness has nothing to with character, personality. Frustration is the only real problem a deaf person suffers which then leads to other emotional feelings and those same feelings for the hearing person also.
Rick - Thank you for your comment and for sharing your perspective on what it means to be in a Deaf-hearing relationship. We hope you find peace. You chose to not divorce her. Eb, you give me hope! I have strong feelings for a deaf guy. It is a deaf-hearing relationship. He is 56 and I am We both have been divorced and are looking for love. The relationship is long distance so we are communicating through email only.
He only reads lips. I am opened for suggestions. Im 35 and i hear and my deaf girlfriend is Janet is my world and i am happy. I am separated from my deafilliterate husband. I see him frequently and try to manage his business issues because he is unable. He has never had to work ,I have had to work hard all my life, I am now retired.
He does not seem to have a clue what all I do for him. When ever I he does anything for me he wants a lot of praise. Maybe he needs to prove to me he is useful. He tries harder to please than my ex but his needs are so great and I am constantly trying to interpret for him.
He interrupts my conversations often, I believe because he cannot be a part of it. My signing skills are limited, so I cannot make him understand all that is being said. I understand his frustration but it is very draining and disrupting to my other relationships. His signing is limited because he cannot spell. Your friend can spell and read. That may be an advantage but spend time with him to find out if you can be yourself and communicate your feelings. Andrea here again-I relate to you too Rena.
Is there a statistically significant relationship between significant hearing impairment and illiteracy or spelling problems? HE loves talking-and being heard. I am back. I am deaf with hearing family. I mainstream all of my life expect two years in deaf school.
He is hearing and never learned sign language. We met through online. He live in Canada and I live in the states. It is very frustrating but the love is there still and we are working through it. I have to have patience and he has to have motivation. It is team work and both partners have to put in effort. Later he realized that and he said he was fine with texting to talk things out instead of trying to force me to speak English.
I appreciated that. What is important is that both of us recognized that ASL is important in our relationship. He care enough to acknowledge what I need and I care enough to be patience. I know this thread is old and the response is old.
But I was reading the reply to this post saying that the poster ascribes to a medical point of view rather than a cultural and linguistic minority point of view.
I want to say that I think the issues are more complicated than that in many situations. My husband was medicalized most of his life. From the time he was two he was fitted with hearing aids and sent to an oral only school from the time he was in diapers. I believe this has left him with issues that linger today.
Even though he went to gallaudet, became fluent in ASL, and found his niche with the Deaf community, I see that when he is not with Deaf people at work, with family, out in public, and even with me he sees himself as an incomplete hearing person. These are scars left from a. So even though I know he is a member of a cultural and linguistic minority, he still has a lot of remaining issues from being medicalized from age A deaf person being married to a heari.
I love your reply. Man hearing, marries woman deaf. Most of us who make it, make it because we were part of Deaf people before we married a Deaf person. I can say the same for multi-lingual multi-cultural hearing marriages. They work when the spouse with the privilege is interested in putting in the same effort as the other spouse.
This wife referred to, already spent her entire life learning to talk and lip -read. Marrying ANY person who uses a different language means we have to do life differently. If I married a hearing person, I would be having issues - some the same and some different.
They could have taken a sign class together. Imagine the wonders of them learning to communicate on neutral grounds! I still listen to music - I have no idea what he is talking about sacrifice. The only sacrifice is when my parents visit and they dont sign after 32 years of having Deaf people in my life.
Its painful. I am oral deaf and have a hearing spouse. We have had 25 married years together, and I hope at least that many more. Yes there were challenges, but we worked it out. We never fight about my hearing loss anymore, it just is, we work on communication and we move on.
I really think there are other issues with your wife, other than deafness, and it is being used as the crutch for all her problems. THEN, I met the daugher a month later. After two hours of observing her with her teammates and coach at a game, I came to a very different conclusion. Clearly,teamwork is an issue more than the deafness. The child is obnoxious because that is part of deafness. They have to be taught why not to be a ball hog and how to be a team player.
All language words, social skills have to be taught to the deaf. Some of my students would tackle another hearing child on the playground.
They think that is how you play because of seeing that on tv. I had to teach them that you tap another child on the shoulder and ask them if they want to play tag or whatever. Nancy, every single word has to be taught to the deaf, they do not know the names of simple things because they never heard the name. They have seen one and maybe ridden one, but they have never heard the name of it. Reading and language skills are low. Written language is poor.
They do not know sentence structure either. Never heard it. It has to be taught!!!! Hearing children hear by osmosis. Hearing children hear words and social graces all the time. It is natural. They hear sentence structure and therefore can write a complete sentence. They come with pre-language background so that when they read a story, they have better comprehension because they already have language. Nancy, I want to challenge you to do research on deaf language skills and social graces.
You will have a better understanding of why this child is they way she is. She does not have many friends due to the language issues, too. Her friends are talking about the skateboard. She does not even know what a skateboard is. Deaf children are often lonely due to language issues. He is very good looking and is someone that most kids would attract to. After several years of teaching language and social graces he now has more friends than he knows what to do with.
He still has challenges though and always will. So yes, deafness is the root of the problem. Fortunately for me, he is exceptionally brilliant, reads 4 languages, signs in 2 or 3 and is an incredibly patient teacher. We have been seeing each other for a year. I felt that it was my responsibility to catch up to him. I feel the same way about hearing people. So, I am learning sign. I love it. My partner reads lips well and understands me very well.
I saw the wrong sign, misinterpreted and paid later for not confirming communication. Communication is always a sticking point and we hearing folk have so many hidden tropes, assumptions around non-verbal noises and microaggressions communicated through tone, that we forget how much of that is NEVER conveyed to the deaf. They live in a world where that will never exist.
Blessing and curse, that one. So we talk about this and everything else all the time. One needs to love communication, love discussing it and want to learn more about if one wishes to be in any form of non-majority-typical relationship. Whether it be in the realm of gender identity and gender preference, polyamory or in the DHH community, get on board with talking about your talking.
It will save you in the end. This post made my soul happy. Maybe 60 years ago, but definitely not now, or even 20 years ago when I was in school. I went to Jr. High right beside the deaf school and no one ever had problems, we shared a field and all got along excellently. Education seems to be a massive factor on both sides of the equation.
Yes, all children need to be properly educated, along with social skills and comprehension, to communicate well, get on with others, and be self-empowered. It is the language of choice, usually determined by the parent s and educators, that is either conductive to clear communication or the root of problem. There is either spoken English or ASL currently, and most of the time, parents opt for spoken English as they think that will make their deaf offspring more successful in life.
Not always true. ASL is usually the language that is most natural for these children to communicate. Some children communicate well in spoken English and prefer this to ASL.
No problem. Why are hearing people forcing deaf children to meet their needs - speak, speak, lip read, lip read, hear hear - when, in a different scenario with blind children, the seeing adults are accommodating to their needs?
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Even the developmentally delayed get better treatment in the classroom! Sabrina, I think you just opened my mind more about deaf people. Then, just a few days ago, I was surprised with what his mom told me. He said all the nasty things to me, and I was really confused where did this all came from. I, too got upset with his insults and told him that if he thinks of me that low then maybe we should just cancel our wedding. Then, the next day I apologized but he was really still very angry with me.
Is this how deaf people really can be? I would appreciate your insight. Thank you! I realized that with my husband. Everything needs to be taught. What should I do when I try to help my deaf husband understand something and he gets mad. Andria DEAF - Glad to know that you and your boyfriend are finding ways to communicate, even though he does not sign. All relationships take a lot of work and commitment, whether or not they are Deaf-hearing or hearing-hearing or Deaf-Deaf.
Good luck to you both. This post by Redd makes my heart happy. In a deaf-hearing relationship the hearing should realise that it will be a difficult road to travel. The hearing partner should know that it will always depend on the adaptability of the hearing because the deaf person will never adapt to the hearing, simply because it is not possible.
Deaf and hearing individuals develop emotionally fundamentally different and these differences need to be realised and researched and worked on in a vigorous way in order for such a relationship te be a success. Both individuals need to work hard at it! I agree very much with this. As a hearing person married to a Deaf man, I do 90 percent of the adapting. However I will say that many of our problems are personality conflicts not specifically about him being Deaf.
But I will say that for us, I have had to give up any social life with hearing couples. That is a sacrifice I never really knew of until after we got married. Also family events he sneaks off and watches TV. I used to offer to interpret but his parents are highly offended by that and he asked me not to. So forget family events. Hanging out with deaf friends are the only times we have a normal social life.
I find your post hilarious. I am deaf and to find that your wife is a burden to you? That says it all in your relationship. Do you even sign with her?
Maybe if you learned sign language, you two would develop a better relationship. Yes, it is a challenge but to communicate with a deaf partner, sign language is always the best approach. Good luck. That was cruel of him to say that. There are many ways to be supportive, affectionate and communicative without sign language and voice. When he is away, they can email, etc.
Rick, shame on you for being selfish and shallow. I read your posts it. I am deaf and I have a girlfriend is hearing. We been together 8 years. We always communication write paper. We still happy. Because We believe in the God. We have a good life. Just be yourself! I say good luck in relationship. Black Wizard - Glad to know that you and your girlfriend are happy communicating by writing on paper.
Not everyone would be happy with that, but if it works for you, that is great!
My girlfriend janet is deaf and i hear and me text each other so we could understand each other. I felt in love with janet because she is her self around me and i love that about her. I think it better when you try very hard have that beautiful relationship with the one you love with your heart so much.
I just found your website and VERY thankful to see all the wonderful posts both good and bad. I had to print everything out to re-read as many times as needed.
I am hearing and just started dating a guy that is deaf born deaf, can read a little lips, and speak a little. I have 3 young boys 10,8,5 from my first marriage and he has a son 9 from a previous relationship mom was deaf, son is not.
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When I met my bf, I was excited to learn more and have picked up on a lot of the signs he has taught me. In the past month that my boys have known my bf, they know the alphabet and can fingerspell. They also know some basic signs and love learning more. To them it is a game, and a game they are getting really good at.
I admit there are times when I just shake my head or hold up my hand, but then he will try to write it out on paper. I stop him and make him go slow, because i want to learn. I have come up with a list of why I would rather have a deaf bf than a hearing one:. Also, he can feel me having problems breathing before I can notice it sometimes. I am currently dating a HOH man. He is a mechanic. When he wears them everything is fine. He does not use sign language. His sense of humor is endless.
He is hardly ever serious. It has been very difficult however. He gets distracted very easily. We are extremely attracted to one another and care for each other a great deal. Hey everyone. I just recently got into an relationship with my boyfriend.
I am hearing and my wife is deaf. We have been together for almost 7 years and have 2 beautiful hearing sons. It was tough in the beginning of our relationship just because we were young. She was 18 I was almost I learned sign from her after a few months of dating since we spent every minute together and I have picked it up really well.
I even fooled some of our deaf friends when I first met them with my sign but of course they saw right through me since I sign english and not pure ASL.
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My wife and I are very happy. Of course there are things that make our relationship hard. Things do get crazy for me when we are in the deaf community since it is different and not everyone signsnclean as my wife so communication gets hard with the people that sign too fast or not as clear but we make sure that we are both involved and comfortable before doing anything that would make they other mad or uncomfortable.
There is a lot to learn than just signing. The deaf culture is very different than hearing culture and that will scare or just surprise anyone not ready for it. Because of my wife, I have some of the best friends ever that are deaf and some deaf friends that are closer than my hearing friends. I do recommend anyone willing to date a deaf or hard of hearing person but do realize the sacrifices both are giving up for each other as any relationship between two people.
Even though I am giving up using my voice to talk to my wife, she has given up much of her deaf community just to be more involved for my hearing world and sometimes that makes things hard for a relationship but every relationship has sacrifices hearing or deaf. Good luck to anyone already with someone deaf or hard of hearing I hope things turn out great.
Aug 28, For the Deaf, Dating a Hearing Person Can Mean Added Obstacles Dating, it should be acknowledged, is something that's quite stressful for just about everyone. But those who suffer from deafness or hearing loss-which is about 15 percent of the U.S., according to the National Institutes of Health-have it particularly tough. Apr 25, As if dating wasn't already complicated enough, add on the additional hurdles of not being able to hear, understand or function like a normal hearing person. Love is a powerful thing. Luke Hatter, 36, who has gradual hearing loss, also mentions feeling discomfort from dating partners who are hearing. "There've been times I've dated and I get the sense the person I'm with is not comfortable being with someone who has a disability," he mcauctionservicellc.com: Anna Pulley.
I am encouraged that with communication and with work, these relationship can be successful. Last summer, I re-connected with a boyfriend from college. While in college, he had some hearing but is now completely deaf. He has always been able to read lips great which was how we communicated long ago.
Since then, he has been married and divorced was married to a hard of hearing person while I am now widowed. First and foremost, we are friends and that has always been the case-then and now. We share the same interests, have the same goals and we have learned hard life lessons. We are both fortunate to love and are successful in our current work he is contractor now.
Both of us had abusive marriages and are now very independent. Besides a solid friendship, we are both strong Christians and we believe with this foundation, anything is possible. We both agree that communication is important and even though, we are doing pretty good-it is frustrating at times, especially for me. I am slow but he tells me I am doing well and not be so hard on myself. I love signing and feel rewarded when our conversation flows.
When a hearing person looks at me to get clarification, I now tell them to talk to him. I am so proud of how he does and I am proud to be with him. Another thing in our favor is our age-he is 53 and I am We look at this as a second chance for us-but, we are thankful to still be friends, no matter what.
I love signing and will continue to practice, study and learn. I am a strong person and I feel that I can handle the difficulties of this kind of relationship.
We have alot going for us and with patience, the possibilities are endless. But, after 33 years of friendship, I am just thankful to have my friend back in my life. Thanks for reading my story. I am hearing and my boyfriend is deaf. I will admit that communication is sometimes a struggle. I repeat myself quite a bit and usually have to talk to him face to face for him to really understand what I am saying. He has a hard time in cars and can hardly hear a thing which makes drives a little boring, but I am happy.
In all relationships people need to adapt. This relationship just requires a little more adaptation. Even though I know there will be some rough times we are planning on getting married.
He makes me happy and treats me like a princess. He is a very humble person because of his deafness and likes to build any relationship he has. Because of that he treats our relationship like it is the best thing on the planet and will do anything to make sure it works out. That is a enormous perk of having a relationship with somebody who is deaf.
All I can say is give things a chance. There will be hard times, but if you learn to work through them, it will all be worth it in the end. Hello, I am a hearing and my husband is deaf. He lost his hearing when he was almost 3 so he speaks pretty clearly. I actually didnt find out he was deaf till our 2nd or 3rd date.
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He does sign to other deaf people but mostly relies on reading lips to communicate. He has never really been socially accepted into the deaf culture because he speaks really well and really doesnt embrace his deafness.
We met, dated a while, got pregnant, continued to date, fell in love and got married. He had a few deaf acquaintances while in college but since married life he doesnt keep in touch. His choice not mine! I know a bit of sign but because he does not sign to me when speaking it is hard for me to retain it and remember it. Our children are learning sign but the same with them, they are not retaining it or remembering it because it is not used by him. I have asked and asked him to sign when speaking to us but he sees it as an inconvenience because we do not NEED to have him sign.
Let me a different perspective. I've been hard of hearing since birth. Social activity has always been a challenge. But I lip read and as long as I can see what someone is saying I manage. I'm 63 now. More of my normal-hearing contemporaries are s. Although most deaf people marry other deaf people, many have relationships with hearing people. Those relationships, which may have begun before the deaf partner lost hearing, often become preoccupied with issues such as sign language (SL) communication. Forum members advised each other on deaf-hearing relationships (snippets follow). Jan 24, By contrast, men who did disclose a loss of hearing typically said they were hard of hearing, without suggesting coping strategies for the person trying to converse with them. The study, conducted by Jessica West and Konstantina Stankovic - colleagues at Harvard University and Massachusetts Eye and Ear in Boston - suggests that men with hearing loss might fare better if .
He doesnt give the appropriate responses a lot. We have quirks in our marriage that do not revolve around him being deaf or me being hearing but one of our major issues and fight causing issues is the LACK of communication between us. I talk and he tries to listen and look at me but he get distracted so easily so then I pause and wait till he looks at me to start speaking again.
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At the moment i am trying to find somethign to read on how to have a successful marriage with e hearing wife and s deaf husband. Thank you. My wonderful boyfriend is fully deaf he is my first offical fully deaf partner before i had the oppertunity to date hard of hearing boys so this is something new for me but i love it! I am very social in the deaf community i love it to be fully honest. I dont see anything about deaf-hearing relationships that is negative.
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Hi, I have a query that I wonder whether anyone could help with. My partner of 12 years is hearing impaired, with minimal hearing with his hearing aid in one year and significantly more hearing in another through his cochlear implant.
He got his cochlear implant at There have been the obvious challenges associated with adapting my own communication style to his hearing impairment, which we have managed. I find that my partner omits the little things, that sometimes mean a lot, such as please and thank you and sorry and just those short, but really appreciated!
I would really appreciate any advice. Jennifer - For Deaf people who grow up without full access to communication, such as your husband did, missing out on vicarious learning is typical. It could be that your husband did not learn the commonly expected courtesies you mentioned, but his omissions could also be reflective of his general approach to communication.
Assuming you have already shared your concerns with him and he has not made an effort to incorporate these courtesies into his interactions, it could be that there is something else going on. If it is bothering you a lot, you may want to look into couples counseling to discuss the issue with a therapist familiar with Deaf-hearing marriages.
We wish you the best. I was born full deaf and im just baby i not know yet sign language and speak voice too also i watch whole my family that all make me strange thing LOL them action and more know learn more then i were 6 or 7 i not remember i have huge experience special education i went school i met lots people deaf or hard of hearing amazing kids sign language that awesome i understanding them and they teach me sign i was 8 or 9 age also i learning more skills and speech therapy for years then i love it.
Im deaf woman with my boyfriend is hearing, we have been together for 7 years and just have a child will be 1 years old. I use sign language and some read lip, he is the most to use spelling and several sign like home sign. He learning, but once i teach him a new sign and next day he forget.
We dont really argue very often but just frustration about our communication. I wanted him to full sign language and how to teach him?
Something work for hearing. I have to be honest, i had dated only one full deaf girl. I was hooked. She and I broke up, i was having very bad problems. She was great. I found another deaf girl, where she and I worked. I had started to learn signbefore I met the first girl. We have had our share of bumps. I have gone to school, been involved heavy with the deaf community, and my brain has a road block to ASL.
It is so frustrating to me. I used to do a lot of interpreting for the deaf community where we worked. But the number one biggest problem has been misunderstanding one another. We have had some major battles. What i have found is that most of the schools that had deaf children years ago did not do a good job of teaching the deaf. This has caused a lot of problems for the deaf community fourty and fifty years ago.
It is to easy to say that it is the other persons fault. My wife is a gift from God. I am so happy that she said yes. I had done millions of hours interpreting for her, and have been lucky enough to be her interpreter at church. Any relationship will have bumps but the real test is to be able to look at it and want it to work. But to be able to see someone that signs and to watch their expressions, to see how much they love their culture and to really love, there is nothing that will compare to the beauty of sign in song, sign in plays, and to be able to be a part of the deaf community is beyond understanding.
Hi, I am not deaf but hearing impaired and also implanted in one ear. I am functional on the hearing world but when it comes to relationships and social life in general it is always a big strugle for me. I even came to think that he was ashamed of me at some point, for acting dumb some times.
I guess I am just venting here, the pain I feel that our relationship ended because I was not good enough. Rosita - Thank you for your comment. Rosita, I am going through the same thing. The hearing loss turned MINE off too. We are who we are. We are enough just as we are. Rosita, It hurts me to hear what you have to say. The fault is not you. Too many times the hearing people have a serious lack of manners, patience and maturity. Then the next problem is schools that fail to equip students.
They teach Spanish, French and have a hard time understanding that embedded in this nation there is a class of people that are slaves. No, the problem is not you. Hi, I am partially hearing impaired, I can speak well and I wear hearing aids. I depend alot on lip reading, a person has to speak to me slowly and face-to-face in order for me to understand what the person is saying.
Hello everyone. We met about. A week ago at a camp for burn survivors. I myself am a burn survivor. Anyways, at this camp I met my friend Deborah who is also a burn survivor burned when she was 5. We are both 14 right now. This is where my deaf friend comes in.
He has been deaf since he was months. Solomon was living off machines when his doctor suggested they use a medication that would practically save his life but could end up taking away all or most of his hearing. This meant that everyone in their house-hold, including the oldest sister 18had to learn sign to better accommodate for Solomon. We liked to keep things private. Anyways I guess this was just a post so someone who understands will listen to me.
Thanks for reading through all this. I really appreciate it. Let me make something real clear. My present wife is considered hard of hearing. Even with hearing aids, she can only hear noise. She refuses Cochlear Implants. I am proud of her. I stood for the deaf at work because of the lack of respect for the deaf. So much do that at the job where I met my wife I was called to a meeting for the deaf.
I found out later that I was not supposed to be there. In the meeting, the supervisor was belittling the deaf. One of the young women that I trained wanted me to let her know if the certified interpreter was correct.
I started signing on the sly to the girl, being as sneaky as possible. From then on none of the deaf trusted her. I was willing to go to court to testify as to what the supervisor was saying. Deaf, may be better. The woman could wake the dead because of her snoring but if she were to stop, I would not be able to sleep. I have interpreted when we went to a Benny Hinn, faith healing for almost five straight hours with no breaks, at Rhema Bible Training center, because she wanted to be a pastor, I interpreted the entire school day.
Not for the money but for the love. I still interpret. I have more difficulty because of arthritis and my 64 years of age. Not one person in her family can sign except for her daughter. So, I am the proud husband. I am not certified, although I did test. I missed one too many questions so I free lance.
At my age I have learned one thing about my relationship with my wife, we will never completely understand one another. My signing and her understanding or her deaf concept and my lack of deafness will never really agree. We duo have rough places. I have been dating thi wonderful man for a few months now. I am hearing and he is deaf but Inspite if all that we are able to communicate well. Mostly because I am willing to take ASL classes and be patient. It has been a struggle so far including him In conversation with my hearing friends but they are patient and I do my best to interpret.
I love my boyfriend and I would do anything for him. I am hearing and my husband is deaf. He went deaf at 14 and he can talk really good. Our problem is that his mom has always done everything for him.
He will not look for a job. I look for him s job I call about it Ischedule tthe interview and I go with him and interpret as well. I am very good at sign language so I enjoy it. I cook I clean the house I take the trash out and I take care of our 4 year old. He sits and does nothing until he needs something then he yells at me to do this do that for him. He constantly puts me down to make himself feel better about his insecurities. We have been married 5 years and together 8.
We separated twice and he has kicked me and my daughter out twice over his friend. He meets new friends and he conforms to his friends activities beliefs and ect. His friend kept telling him to go off with him go clubbing go cheat on his wife. He did all that because his friend did. He has turned our life upside down.
He blames it on me. When his friend went to jail for theft and he almost lost his job because of it he finally calmed down and started listening. But now he is back to himself again.
I just want him to let go of his ego and be independent for once. Help me please!!!! So sorry to hear this! Sending hugs. If not get deaf counselling together. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.
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